Question 1

What is my aim in therapy?

Accepted Answer

Identifying what you would like to be different, even broadly, afterwards, if therapy were to be successful, is a great way to focus your treatment.

Question 2

What are the past or current events, emotions, patterns, or stressors that I would like to work through?

Accepted Answer

Bringing these up with your therapist will help in building a plan for the work.

Question 3

What worked and did not work in previous therapy experiences I may have had?

Accepted Answer

Knowing what has helped in the past, or acknowledging concerns about what has not, can help you communicate your needs better, and assess whether a therapist is a good fit for you.

Question 4

Do I hold a negative view of therapy or have concerns or fears about starting?

Accepted Answer

It makes sense that you may be nervous about getting to know someone new. If previous experiences, or messages about therapy, have not been positive, opening up to someone new may bring up difficult emotions. It is important to recognize factors that make this challenging.

Question 5

Am I ready to prioritize time for myself?

Accepted Answer

Therapy is time you commit to carving out consistently for yourself to reflect and grow. Ask yourself if this is a time when you can create that space.

Question 6

Am I looking for a therapist who shares certain lived experiences, aligns on certain values, or has a certain style, approach, or expertise?

Accepted Answer

Answering this can help you recognize what you need to feel safe in this experience, and guide questions you may ask to gain clarity.

Mary Clark, LMFT Psychotherapy

Questions to Ask Yourself Before Therapy